Significant age difference dating

31 Jan

A gap of just five years meant a relationship was more likely to end by 18 per cent.

I believed, as Spacey’s accuser put it, that “I’d won the jackpot.” I’m not so sure anymore, nor am I sure how to separate the damaging myths about gay predators that I’ve absorbed throughout my life with what actually occurred. The beautifully rendered gay love story just happens to feature a seven-year age gap, and portrays the ideal of a relationship with a significant age difference.

But there are also wistful, fantastical elements to the movie which, it’s worth noting, was based on a book written by a straight man and cast with straight leads.

But when famous straight men date much younger women, people don’t tend to automatically condemn them as pedophiles — something they’re inclined to do when it comes to prominent gay men.

Different motivations propel younger gay men into these relationships as well.

“I wasn’t necessarily seeking older people, but that was what was available to me at the time.”It wasn’t until recently that David began to question whether the relationship was wholly consensual.

“I don’t feel like I was victimized, but I also feel like I could have been fine without some college student intervening on my behalf.

It also doesn’t fully capture some of the messy realities — like negotiations of power or consent — that are sometimes present in older-younger gay relationships.

Likewise, there are elements to the stories of Spacey’s accusers that I believe warrant discussion beyond simple condemnation for the actor.

At the time of the affair, he said, “I would’ve told you that relationship was completely consensual.

I would have said, ‘Yeah, I’m 14, but I’m really smart. And it’s normal that a 25-year-old would want me to be their boyfriend because I’m a grownup.’”Spacey abused his position of power over this man for sexual gratification — just as he did with the actor Anthony Rapp and what seems like countless others.

Alex Jung that whenever he would describe his sexual relationship with Spacey to friends, he would include a caveat.

“Every time I’ve ever told the story, I am compelled to tell people how seductive I was,” he told the writer.